Best of 2016 Mental Health

“The more you gloat, the less you actually have… as eternal happiness can only be found in the soul.”

~unknown

Dear Friends, Colleagues, Clients, and Yogis,

You have not heard from me because I am in the process of publishing a self-help book about psychological trauma. I hope to release it in time for the holidays as it will be a great gift for many.

The above quote is about this email blast, as it is an announcement about being chosen for “Fairfield’s County’s Finest 2016” in healthcare, education, technology, nonprofit, and business.

“The more you gloat, the less you actually have… as eternal happiness can only be found in the soul”, sums up how I feel about self-marketing. There is a difference between humility and self-promotion and a difference between empowerment and pride. My hope with this email is that you know that I am coming from a place of deep gratitude, humility, and empowerment when I announce the “Best of 2016” with the link below.

http://www.proactiveresources.com/102716/

I learned a long time ago in musical theatre auditions that no matter how talented we are, there is always someone better than us! Also, we are all replaceable I am sorry to say. With that said, a lesson is to be learned in being able to take feedback as “feedback” and not perceive it as “criticism” which is a difficult task.

Particularly with writing my upcoming book I have been subject to lots of feedback, good and not so good, and have been able to take it with a thicker skin than years ago when everything hurt! My intention for you is to have a thick enough skin to NOT get crushed by feedback, but not so thick that you cannot accept love and encouragement and show your vulnerability and true self.

Thank you for reading and I will release the book information as soon as we are up on Amazon.com. The soft cover and Kindle version will be available in the near future so look out for upcoming email blasts about the book.

Till then I wish you L’shana Tova (Happy Jewish New Year) and Happy Thanksgiving if we do not speak before then!

Love and Blessings,
Pamela

 

Fall Is In The Air



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As we are savoring our last days of summer, notice what happens inside your body as Fall comes closer. For me, there’s a sense of hope and new beginnings. There’s a momentum that wants to explore and explode with new ideas and new activities. Challenge yourself to quiet the mind enough to sense what is inside. This is some of the work we do in our Somatic Experiencing sessions. When the stuff inside is too mucky or dark we learn to pendulate out of the trauma to places that make us feel good and whole again. Our goal is being able to have a healthy nervous system that flows easily from the good to the difficult sensations, and back to the wonderful ones. Embodiment has been a new term for my clients to digest. How do we stay in our bodies and grounded during times of distress? Meditation and Yoga can sometimes take us out of our body. To stay within it takes awareness and sensation. Becoming aware of when you leave your body and noticing bodily sensations that will help keep you grounded, in the here and now, and in your body. EMBODIED

I wish you a beautiful, safe and grounded Fall! Remember… our Wednesday 6pm Yoga class begins in Stamford next week. If you are interested, just reply to this email and I will forward details.

Till then,

La Shana Tova for those of you who are celebrating the Jewish New Year and

Namaste to all!

 


From West to East

“From West to East”

Pamela doing a variation of Warrior I - Virabhadrasana I

 Pamela of doing a variation of Warrior I – Virabhadrasana I 

“The Yoga we practice is not for ourselves alone, but for the Divine; its aim is to work out the will of the Divine in the world,
to effect a Spiritual transformation and to bring down a Divine nature and a Divine life into the mental, vital, and life of humanity.”

~ Sri Aurobindo (Indian Sage)

 

Dear readers,

I’m so blessed to have had a vacation out West in Idaho!  Yes Idaho!  When people from the East Coast hear “Idaho” they think of potatoes .  Northern Idaho, the land of gorgeous lakes and mountains is a hidden gem. The water is as crystal clear as a diamond and the air is a pure delight to breathe. The people are happy, friendly, and live a wonderful quality of life. On the main page of my website (www.PamelaTinkham.com) you can see some photos of this beautiful place. A quote from my mentor in CA is, “New York, slow the F–k down! California, hurry up!”  West coast is definitely more “chill” in the most positive way. What I noticed coming back East was that everybody had an intensity that just did not exist over there. The stress levels here are so high and yet everyone is used to the stress so it has become our way of life. People don’t even realize the stress in their bodies and seem to have no awareness of it until they get sick.

Now I would like to mention West to East on a global level. In the West we tend to treat physical symptoms in the moment as they occur, while in the East they look at the entire body as a whole system and include spirit as well. In Eastern traditions there are many aspects to health and a holistic practitioner will do an exhaustive interview to know everything about you before prescribing a natural remedy. In the West we just prescribe drugs to treat the presenting problem. Please don’t misunderstand, I’m all for drugs and have taken many! I just think we overlook many things and don’t always get to the root of the problem.

So… where to live, what to do, and how to thrive seems to be the subject here. Personally, I want to live where I feel God’s presence. I want to treat my body as a temple and nourish it in the best possible way and I want my soul to soar with nature and be free! Sounds mushy? Maybe for some…

As I return to my routine, I notice that the amount of people on the East Coast adds to my overall stress level. Whether it is in traffic, a line at the grocery store, or even wanting to find peace and quiet at the beach and there’s a crowd. (Or people having sex on the beach if you read the last email blast ). Also, if anyone has been away to a beautiful, peaceful place and has come back to one of the New York airports, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s almost like you going from Paradise to Hell. Please excuse me if you are an “I love New Yorker”. I love the restaurants, the arts, the culture, the diversity, and I believe there is no comparison when it comes to those things. NYC is one of a kind and cannot be compared to other cities. My sincere apologies if this email offends anyone!

Where I am going with this is…

To simply inform you that I am moving to the West Coast soon! Actually in about 2 years. I’m not trying to sell myself or my services to anyone. (Although I wouldn’t mind having more business ). I’m letting you know that if you have been putting off trying the combination of Yoga and Psychotherapy, you have 2 years to come in for an appointment. With that said, once I move I will be offering a generous discount for existing clients to continue working with me via FaceTime or Skype. The union of Yoga and Psychotherapy has been a gift to me and I am passionate about sharing it. I am also in the beginning stages of a 3 year training in Psychological Trauma and will continue the training out West and will have the credential of a SEP, (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner). Somatic Experiencing is all about how emotions are stored within the body and how trauma affects the nervous system. It’s all very exciting work to share with you!

Once again, thank you for reading. I know that lengthy emails are annoying during the times of receiving 100+ emails daily. I appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day and look forward to hearing from you in the near future.

With love and blessings always…

Namaste,
Pamela

 


Happy Holidays!

 

by Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP

 

 

Happy Holidays from Pamela Tinkham LLC!
Holidays… What do they bring up for us?

Do they bring up joy, sorrow, community, family, loneliness, or happiness?  Each of us experiences something different during the holidays.  For some of us the holidays are fun filled and for others they magnify the loneliness that we feel.

This holiday season try spending some time in gratitude reflecting on all the gifts that were given to us such as our health, life, love, family, friends, career, abundance and opportunity.

For those of us that loathe the holidays instead of staying home and being alone this is a great opportunity to explore opportunities for volunteering.  One of the best ways to beat the self focus of depression is to focus outward by helping a person or an animal in need.

Volunteering is a beautiful thing to do at any time of year whether you love or loathe the holidays.  If it is not comfortable for you to volunteer than you can still focus outward.  If you do a Google search on the computer for “Holiday Charity” you will come up with ample ways you can positively affect someone’s life this season.

There is nothing more rewarding than making a positive difference in someone else’s life.  So if you are inclined to do so, may it come back to you a million times!

Pamela Tinkham LLC is grateful to know all of you wonderful people and wishes you a joyous holiday season!

 

Holiday Plan of Action

 

by Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP

 

  1. Bring the salad with the fat free dressing in case there is nothing low fat to eat.
  2. Make sure your portion size is no more than 3oz. of meat, a couple tablespoonfuls (not heaping) of the carbohydrate, and load up on veggies.
  3. Don’t go back for seconds.
  4. Bring the fruit salad for dessert with fat free whipped cream and eat that instead of the pies, cookies, or cakes.
  5. Bring the low-fat eggnog, if this is a temptation for you.
  6. Chew all your food slowly and take your time before swallowing.  Swallow before you pick up your fork to take the next bite.
  7. Nibble on veggies.  You can bring the fat free dip and the veggie plate if need be.
  8. Be assertive in saying no when asked if you want more food.  If the host insists on you having something else, ask for a cup of tea or coffee.
  9. Have a protein bar with you if all else fails… (If you didn’t bring anything low fat to eat… if they don’t have fruits and veggies).  Eat the bar so that you aren’t starved.  Then you have a better chance at resisting the tempting foods.
  10. Enjoy yourself and remember that overindulging now will lead to guilt, disappointment, and weight gain later.