by Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP
What does your posture say about you? If you stand up tall with your shoulders back and head up straight, you appear confident. If you add a smile, you appear confident and approachable.
A common posture due to the computer age is a posture where your shoulders are slumped forward, your head is forward and your belly is sticking out. Very attractive. It is also easily correctable just by becoming aware of it. Changing your posture changes the way you look and directly affects how people perceive you.
How do you perceive yourself? Are you capable, confident, talented, secure, loving and genuine?
Are you insecure, self-loathing, self-destructive, fearful and guarded?
There’s a song, “I’m a Hazard to Myself”, by Pink. When I hear this song on the radio I laugh (and sigh), because many people fit into the category of being a hazard to themselves.
Some of the lyrics are as follows:
Every day I fight a war against a mirror
I can’t take the person staring back at me
I’m a hazard to myself
Don’t let me get me
I’m my own worst enemy
It’s bad when you don’t know yourself
Don’t want to be my friend no more
I wanna be somebody else
How are you a hazard to yourself and what can you do to correct this?
How do people perceive you? Do you not know how others perceive you? It is a good idea to ask someone you trust and respect for feedback on this topic. It is not easy to ask for feedback. If you can take the feedback with an open mind without becoming defensive, it can be valuable for you.
Don’t be a hazard to yourself. Take care of your body, your mind and your soul. Stand up tall and appear confident even if you have to “fake it until you make it”. Add a smile and the world will smile with you!
Have a glorious day!