People, Play… and an Artist’s Way



People, Play… and an Artist’s Way



Greetings everyone! One of my New Year’s intentions was to have more fun and joy in my life. Below are a couple of quotes and a prayer to help us to bring out the second or sacral chakra (pronounced cha-kra or sha-kra) passion so that we can expand and spread our wings! The color of the chakra (energy center) is orange for creativity, passion, sexuality and sensuality.

Let’s soar together!


“You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation.”

~ Plato

“The body heals with play. The mind heals with laughter. The spirit heals with joy.”

~ Gail Kellstrom


The Song I’ve Been Singing:

 You can bend but never break me
Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve my final goal
And I’ll come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
Cause you’ve deepened the conviction in my soul
Yes, I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price

But look how much I gained!

If I have to I can do anything
I am strong
I am invincible
I am woman!

– Helen Reddy “I am Woman”



(God, Universe, Nature, Divinity, Self, Higher Self, Spirit Guides, or whatever your belief is),

We call on you and ask to be of greater service to you,
And to our fellows
We offer ourselves to you as instruments.
We surrender to you our old ideas.
We open ourselves to your creativity in our lives.
We welcome your new and more expansive ideas.
We trust that you will lead us.
We trust that it is safe to follow you.
We know you created us and that creativity is your nature and our own.
We ask you to unfold our lives
According to your plan, not our own.
Help us believe that it is not too late
And that we are not too small or too flawed
To be healed—
By you and through each other— and made whole.
Help us to love one another,
To nurture each other’s unfolding,
To encourage each other’s growth,
And to understand each other’s fears.
Help us to know that we are not alone,
That we are loved and lovable.
Help us to create as an act of worship to you.


(Adapted from An Artist’s Way, Julia Cameron)

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 “Practices from the East and West”

Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Yoga-Psychotherapist specializing in depression, anxiety, relationship issues and trauma. She is the owner of Pamela Tinkham LLC and practices out of Stamford, CT. For more information, please call (203) 979-7819 or go to

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50 Years Wiser



50 Years Wiser

(Scroll down to the end for the humorous before and after photos!)


Left to right:   Linda Mortenson, Editor, Pamela Tinkham, Author, Rev. Dr. Nadja Fidelia, Foreword


Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP and Karin Gerber, Copy Editor and Assistant


(Others involved in the publishing of Healing Trauma from the Inside Out, Practices from the East and West:
Barbara Aronica-Buck, Book Designer, Sarah Szabo, Artist,
David Asomaning, PhD
Guest Writer, Randy Martin, PhD, Guest Writer,
Cantor Magda Fishman, Guest Contributor)


“I loved your book and that is what you would expect me to say, but I did. So many of my daily thoughts follow your Table of Contents. I am a T. M. and have been for over 25 years. Your thoughts on Meditation and Yoga were enlightening but so were dogs, cats, peacock and poop. Your diverse bio showed me the credentials that gave you license to be such an authority on all your insights for the book. Congratulations. I hope you had as much fun writing Healing Trauma from the Inside Out: Practices from the East and West as your readers have had reading the book.”

-Verne Westerberg, Former Publisher of Vogue


50 Years Wiser

How did I get to be middle aged when I still act like a screaming child at times?

A girl who has everything, yet the pain in her heart can feel as great as all the pain in the world.

She knows it’s an illusion, and that there are people with true suffering in the world; homelessness, poverty, hunger, violence, abuse and war.

Yet, the wars she fights within can feel just as significant as the real wars in the world.

Of course she wrote a book about healing trauma because it was her journey; her struggle.

She was misunderstood by some who thought she wrote the book as a self-serving endeavor.

However, she only wrote the book to help those who are truly suffering…

50 Years Wiser she is stronger, more confident, more independent, more capable, more self-loving, more compassionate and more nurturing.

She has learned that life is a gift, that God is good, and that people are scared.

There are haters who will always hate because of fear.

There are people who will take your energy, and be needy until they find self-love.

There are those who are brave enough to form intimate bonds that will thankfully always be there;

And there are those who flee because they are terrified of the closeness they once felt.

Dear God… thank you for this glorious day of 50 years of age! You are my rock, my strength, my vision, my heart and my soul. I could not be who I am today without you! I love you!




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Thank you for being a part of my 50th birthday celebration!

Love and Blessings Always,


 Work with Pamela and watch the years and the stress come right off!
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To support you on your journey and to assist you with having a life
filled with loving compassion, acceptance, grace, and confidence.




“Practices from the East and West”

Pamela Tinkham, LCSW, C-IAYT, SEP is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Yoga-Psychotherapist specializing in depression, anxiety, relationship issues and trauma. She is the owner of Pamela Tinkham LLC and practices out of Stamford, CT. For more information, please call (203) 979-7819 or go to



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Finding Light in the Darkness: A Suicide Prevention Toolkit – by Jennifer Scott

Photo courtesy of Pixabay by Sharokh


It feels like heartbreaking suicide reports have recently been all over the news. We’ve been shocked by the celebrity deaths of beloved comedian, Robin Williams, and talented musician, Chris Cornell. There have also been far too many teenagers, adolescents and adults who have committed suicide – such as the widely-publicized death of 15-year-old Audrie Pott, who is now the focus of a new Netflix documentary. Indeed, our world has been rocked by millions of people taking their own lives because they feel trapped with no other way out.

Suicide remains the 10th leading cause of death for people of all ages. Suicide is also the 2nd leading cause of death for adolescents and teenagers aged 10 to 19 years. Facts such as these have led many experts to suggest that the current suicide rates are a national “epidemic.”

Although these statistics sound grim – and they are – there is hope. Keep reading to learn short-term and long-term methods for helping yourself or a loved one who might be struggling with suicidal thoughts.


Suicide Prevention Toolkit

This suicide prevention toolkit listed in this article contains two parts: short-term (emergency) prevention resources; and long-term suicide prevention strategies.

    1. Emergency Resources and Short-Term Prevention
      If you (or a loved one) have recently been struggling with suicidal thoughts, it is important to seek help now rather than allowing the thoughts to escalate further. Suicide prevention hotlines, chats, and licensed professionals specializing in intervention can all be literal life savers during your time of need. These short-term prevention methods and emergency resources could help you (or your loved one) remain in the present moment and not give into suicidal thoughts during an emergency situation.
    2. Long-Term Prevention
      Suicide rates in the United States have recently climbed to a 30 year high, and some of the leading reasons include drug abuse (such as heroin addiction) and alcoholism. For this reason, it is crucial for anyone struggling with addiction or alcoholism to seek recovery. There are many licensed professionals with years of experience in suicide prevention, postvention and recovery techniques who can help regain one’s life and manage mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, or trauma. In addition, daily breathwork practices such as yoga and meditation may also be helpful in treating symptoms of depression, anxiety, stress PTSD, and suicidal thoughts or behaviors. Maintaining a spiritual or religious practice, attending church, and deepening one’s relationship with a higher power can also assist in healing, recovery, and suicide prevention.

JK Rowling once wrote: “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” Remember, there is always a light, even on your darkest days. Never give up and never lose hope.

With the suicide prevention toolkit listed in this article, we hope to provide resources for those in need – so we never have to lose any more beautiful lives to the pain of suicide. Good luck with your journey to healing!

~ Jennifer Scott




Best of 2016 Mental Health

“The more you gloat, the less you actually have… as eternal happiness can only be found in the soul.”


Dear Friends, Colleagues, Clients, and Yogis,

You have not heard from me because I am in the process of publishing a self-help book about psychological trauma. I hope to release it in time for the holidays as it will be a great gift for many.

The above quote is about this email blast, as it is an announcement about being chosen for “Fairfield’s County’s Finest 2016” in healthcare, education, technology, nonprofit, and business.

“The more you gloat, the less you actually have… as eternal happiness can only be found in the soul”, sums up how I feel about self-marketing. There is a difference between humility and self-promotion and a difference between empowerment and pride. My hope with this email is that you know that I am coming from a place of deep gratitude, humility, and empowerment when I announce the “Best of 2016” with the link below.

I learned a long time ago in musical theatre auditions that no matter how talented we are, there is always someone better than us! Also, we are all replaceable I am sorry to say. With that said, a lesson is to be learned in being able to take feedback as “feedback” and not perceive it as “criticism” which is a difficult task.

Particularly with writing my upcoming book I have been subject to lots of feedback, good and not so good, and have been able to take it with a thicker skin than years ago when everything hurt! My intention for you is to have a thick enough skin to NOT get crushed by feedback, but not so thick that you cannot accept love and encouragement and show your vulnerability and true self.

Thank you for reading and I will release the book information as soon as we are up on The soft cover and Kindle version will be available in the near future so look out for upcoming email blasts about the book.

Till then I wish you L’shana Tova (Happy Jewish New Year) and Happy Thanksgiving if we do not speak before then!

Love and Blessings,


My 30 Foot Jump

Just Do It!  (As in the “Nike” slogan)

I recently jumped 30 feet to land on a cushioned platform and face my fear of heights. Here is the video where I get a slight running start.

After the jump the very next day, I did the zip line at Okemo Mountain. I was the only one who almost chickened out after the initial walk over the bridge and the instructors and the group convinced me that I could do it.

Well, I don’t think I will do the zip line again, but I did it and faced the fear of heights once again. I did all of this to remind myself that no matter how uncomfortable life can become, there is a way out… and that means through!

I recently agreed with a girlfriend of mine that for our 50th birthdays (next year) I will sky dive with her. OK, I’m not sure why I agreed to this, but I think it’s because I want to visualize flying in the clouds with all of my angels and landing on my feet where I will be grounded and comfortable in my skin.

Before my 30 foot jump I was instructed to land on my back for the impact, and I landed on my feet! This was not the best option but it reminded me that I always land on my feet even when I think I will land on my ass! Please excuse the French!

Moral of the story? Stretch out of your comfort zone so that you can move forward in your life with grace and confidence.

With Love and Guts,


My Miracle Peacock!


Just last week I had a visitor from the Universe or G-d. Whatever your beliefs are, this visitor came to me at a time when I needed it most.

We all have moments of defeat in life and sometimes it takes more than friends, family, resources, and mentors to lift us up.

I became lifted up by a Peacock! AND this was no ordinary Peacock. He was literally knocking his nose on my glass back door for hours so that I would pay attention… and attention was paid.

He is no longer at my home and Stamford Animal Control has been trying to capture him to keep him safe, with no luck. He flies away when they try to capture him, so I am hoping he will fly away when the coyotes approach. I love my miracle Peacock! I named him “Buddy” because as you can see in the video below, he responded when I said, “Hey Buddy!”

Here is the link to the video I posted on Facebook and some of the reactions I received from the posting:

“In Siddha Yoga the Peacock means that G-d was present.”

This comment was said after I told my friend he pooped 4 times on my deck:

“You get the beauty and the poop. That’s what G-d sends us in life. So you can appreciate the beauty and clean out the poop.”

The next comment was made after a conversation about men:

“Man is proud and walks like a peacock.”

Other comments were:

“Into our lives some crap must fall.”

“That is unbelievable.”

“Really cool!”

“Absolutely beautiful!”

And lastly:

“Given the moment it appeared…how could it not be G-d speaking to you? The Peacock hung around long enough for you to realize it wasn’t a coincidence, but G-d’s Divine word.”

On that note, I leave you with HOPE and FAITH that no matter how bad things seem in the moment, they will change.

With Love, Blessings, and Faith,



Fall Is In The Air

As we are savoring our last days of summer, notice what happens inside your body as Fall comes closer. For me, there’s a sense of hope and new beginnings. There’s a momentum that wants to explore and explode with new ideas and new activities. Challenge yourself to quiet the mind enough to sense what is inside. This is some of the work we do in our Somatic Experiencing sessions. When the stuff inside is too mucky or dark we learn to pendulate out of the trauma to places that make us feel good and whole again. Our goal is being able to have a healthy nervous system that flows easily from the good to the difficult sensations, and back to the wonderful ones. Embodiment has been a new term for my clients to digest. How do we stay in our bodies and grounded during times of distress? Meditation and Yoga can sometimes take us out of our body. To stay within it takes awareness and sensation. Becoming aware of when you leave your body and noticing bodily sensations that will help keep you grounded, in the here and now, and in your body. EMBODIED

I wish you a beautiful, safe and grounded Fall! Remember… our Wednesday 6pm Yoga class begins in Stamford next week. If you are interested, just reply to this email and I will forward details.

Till then,

La Shana Tova for those of you who are celebrating the Jewish New Year and

Namaste to all!


Somatic Experiencing


“Somatic Experiencing”


Greetings everyone! I hope you are enjoying the rest of the summer and savoring every moment of the time we have left of the season.

Some of you know that I have begun a journey for another credential which will take 3 years to complete. The SEP (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner) is what I will have after studying 3 years at the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute. If you want to learn more about it, you can read Peter Levine’s books, Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma and In An Unspoken Voice, How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores to Goodness.

This past weekend, I attended a four day intensive which dove right into the exercises and lessons. The most profound work was in completing the fight, flight, or freeze response and discovering where my boundaries begin and end and where they have been ruptured. There is too much to put into words about this amazing work that discovers where you are holding onto trauma in your body and how to release it. I encourage you to come in for a session to experience it for yourself.

As you know from previous emails, Pamela Tinkham LLC is the union of Mind and Body. For the past two and a half years, I have been incorporating Somatic Experiencing into my sessions under the supervision and mentoring of Mariana Caplan (SEP), author of Eyes Wide Open, Cultivating Discernment on the Spiritual Path. Since working with Mariana’s Yoga and Psyche Method and Somatic Experiencing, my psychotherapy sessions have been more grounded and have been able to go deeper. I have found with this method that issues that would have taken years in therapy to resolve, can be resolved in as little as one session.

I was brave enough and lucky enough to be chosen as a volunteer this weekend to be an example for the class to observe. I chose an event from 9/11 that I was present for that had still been stuck in my body. We worked on the fight response that I never got to complete and spent about 25 minutes on this particular issue. I was able to complete the fight response which allowed my nervous system to return to homeostasis. I still have many layers related to that event to work on due to the magnitude of how horrific that day was. However, I came back home with more clarity, presence and peace just from that one session. That’s how well this works.

If you have more questions or would like to come in for a free half hour consultation, please reply to this email or call (203) 979-7819. Till then, I leave you with this anonymous quote:

“The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.”


From West to East

“From West to East”

Pamela doing a variation of Warrior I - Virabhadrasana I

 Pamela of doing a variation of Warrior I – Virabhadrasana I 

“The Yoga we practice is not for ourselves alone, but for the Divine; its aim is to work out the will of the Divine in the world,
to effect a Spiritual transformation and to bring down a Divine nature and a Divine life into the mental, vital, and life of humanity.”

~ Sri Aurobindo (Indian Sage)


Dear readers,

I’m so blessed to have had a vacation out West in Idaho!  Yes Idaho!  When people from the East Coast hear “Idaho” they think of potatoes .  Northern Idaho, the land of gorgeous lakes and mountains is a hidden gem. The water is as crystal clear as a diamond and the air is a pure delight to breathe. The people are happy, friendly, and live a wonderful quality of life. On the main page of my website ( you can see some photos of this beautiful place. A quote from my mentor in CA is, “New York, slow the F–k down! California, hurry up!”  West coast is definitely more “chill” in the most positive way. What I noticed coming back East was that everybody had an intensity that just did not exist over there. The stress levels here are so high and yet everyone is used to the stress so it has become our way of life. People don’t even realize the stress in their bodies and seem to have no awareness of it until they get sick.

Now I would like to mention West to East on a global level. In the West we tend to treat physical symptoms in the moment as they occur, while in the East they look at the entire body as a whole system and include spirit as well. In Eastern traditions there are many aspects to health and a holistic practitioner will do an exhaustive interview to know everything about you before prescribing a natural remedy. In the West we just prescribe drugs to treat the presenting problem. Please don’t misunderstand, I’m all for drugs and have taken many! I just think we overlook many things and don’t always get to the root of the problem.

So… where to live, what to do, and how to thrive seems to be the subject here. Personally, I want to live where I feel God’s presence. I want to treat my body as a temple and nourish it in the best possible way and I want my soul to soar with nature and be free! Sounds mushy? Maybe for some…

As I return to my routine, I notice that the amount of people on the East Coast adds to my overall stress level. Whether it is in traffic, a line at the grocery store, or even wanting to find peace and quiet at the beach and there’s a crowd. (Or people having sex on the beach if you read the last email blast ). Also, if anyone has been away to a beautiful, peaceful place and has come back to one of the New York airports, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s almost like you going from Paradise to Hell. Please excuse me if you are an “I love New Yorker”. I love the restaurants, the arts, the culture, the diversity, and I believe there is no comparison when it comes to those things. NYC is one of a kind and cannot be compared to other cities. My sincere apologies if this email offends anyone!

Where I am going with this is…

To simply inform you that I am moving to the West Coast soon! Actually in about 2 years. I’m not trying to sell myself or my services to anyone. (Although I wouldn’t mind having more business ). I’m letting you know that if you have been putting off trying the combination of Yoga and Psychotherapy, you have 2 years to come in for an appointment. With that said, once I move I will be offering a generous discount for existing clients to continue working with me via FaceTime or Skype. The union of Yoga and Psychotherapy has been a gift to me and I am passionate about sharing it. I am also in the beginning stages of a 3 year training in Psychological Trauma and will continue the training out West and will have the credential of a SEP, (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner). Somatic Experiencing is all about how emotions are stored within the body and how trauma affects the nervous system. It’s all very exciting work to share with you!

Once again, thank you for reading. I know that lengthy emails are annoying during the times of receiving 100+ emails daily. I appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day and look forward to hearing from you in the near future.

With love and blessings always…